Vulnerability

When we travel wit mobility, we cannot just walk around without paying attention and we use the sound of traffic or cues with our canes, or our dog's direction to help us know where we are going. We have to count the blocks, or know which direction to turn. If I walked a mile, I had to know when to turn or how to turn. We could ask questions, but I was always terrified about getting lost. It was easiest in New York. Hesper, my first dog guide, would but her head between people who formed a fence on the Manhattan street, and people would gasp when they felt that cold nose. Ragu was, by far, the best dog guide, who just was so fast and really good at her job. So, ask about mobility and how we navigate, (no we don't count steps). Sometimes, we use "sighted guide" and have to trust ourselves and our dogs. Trust is extremely hard for me. Maybe, it is because I did not have the bonding I needed. Thanks. Koraling Lynne

vulnerability

I was writing yesterday about trust. How can someone be whole-hearted and trust when we have been pushed back, told that we must be grateful, and told to be polite and conform, molded into societal clay? If we speak up we got told to be quiet. We need a hand up, how can we learn about what we really think? How can we form ideas? If we have been raped (which is a crime of violence) or neglected, or intimidated in any way, we have fear that is written all over our countenance because of how we are treated. Trust is built on acceptance, vulnerability presupposes trust, and many of us have not been accepted. So to be vulnerable, one must trust their family, peers, or other adults, and if we are told that we can never measure up, and that everyone is doing us a favor, and that we should be grateful, how do we develop the kind of concept we need to develop? When we are premature, and were not nurtured during the first two months of life, we miss the affection connection, the touch? If anyone has studied the cloth monkeys vs. the iron monkeys, you can see what happens if you don't have another human loving us instead of being in an isolette or incubator. Any thoughts? Thanks. Koraling Lynneदेसिड़े व्हेन तो दिस्क्लोसे और नोट दिस्क्लोसे पेनफुल सुब्जेक्ट्स? इस तेरे अ टाइम व्हेनOkay, hope I can send this? व

Vulnerability

I watched a video by a researcher and social worker who realized that happiness relies on people being connected and "whole-hearted." I saw this on a site that I am on which has great scientific, higher consciousness and great information to reflect on entitledHigher Balance Institute. If I knew how to put that video on here, I would do it, so as soon as I learn, it will be there. I realize that vulnerability is part of the problem with people's acceptance on an organic level of people with disabilities. I mean their brain does not learn about things that go wrong, and they are shooed away from asking questions when they are younger, so differences are scary to most young children. What a profound thing. Our inability to get close and to understand ambiguity and the search for meaning without certainty, and to embrace change and whole-heartedness and passion, (which is me) is paramount. When I was a teen-ager, and I would hug people, I was called "flirtatious" because "normal" people did not get that enthusiastic. People label what they do not understand, isn't that interesting? Yes, they label it, and then they judge it and separate from it. Hmm. It's the fear of being vulnerable and becoming out of control. Fantastic!