anger and forgiveness

I just want to have less anger and blame, shame and all that. I have said this before. Calling people names of the four-letter variety or five-letter and especially preying on women, people of color, disabled people, and other people is not about just spirituality but also about trauma-informed therapy or EMDR, and I don't know what the letter stand for basically. I believe in questioning, flexibility, options, interdependence, inclusion, wrap-around services, and counseling, coaching and consulting. Threating, fear does not work. As Doug Stephan said and a modern thinker Jay Kumar said that gratitude, and growth, and possibility is better than fear and collapsing with opportunity. When folks shut down conversation and topics become much less possible, why be in a relationship of that kind? I've had it with that sort of "my way or the highway." Listening is not valued any more. Face-to-face conversation has been replaced by other forms of communication with texting, Facebook, Twitter, Flickr, Linkedein. Oh, my. Anyway, things should be much more loving, interconnected, forgiving, etc. Koraling Lynne